I was one who had the traditional fairy tale with the white picket fence. 
A handsome husband, cottage style home a couple kids, happy home, so much love, flower gardens, stability, security and more. The handsome husbands came and went, the cottage style home, well… I thought I had to have a husband in order to have a home, the day that I closed on my house and bought out my ex husband was one of the proudest days of my life. I still own that home, it is not my dream home by any means, but it is a place that I have lived for over 20 years, and have matured much in. It seems to always need work, but I love my home. The old adage “There is no place like home” is so true for me.
I have learned that the borders of the picket fence dreams can create shadows
that actually keep you from getting what your heart desires. The shadows keep the very light you need from coming in, blanketing darkness and boundaries set around the very ground you want to be welcoming. The fairy tales, the thoughts, the dreams all carry with them expectations that for me were a set up for disaster, for disappointment, for failure. They were unrealistic, based on a sense of unreality so how could they possibly live and grow?
The good news here is that, there are many more fences available
than just the perfect picket fence! Made out of materials that may be grown in your own back yard, sowed and clipped with your own hands, the materials though different are nonetheless beautiful and depicts a new story. A story of hard work, devotion, imperfection, and perseverence, a story of commitment, which ultimately ends up with an end result unique to your personality, your own strengths, weaknesses, your own life, not a preconceived tale filled with expectations based on anothers standards. You, me, we all have the ability to create our own fences, boundaries. What will yours be? Will they be a show piece? A statement? Will they be artfully crafted? Will they depict the perfect home? Will they create a wall of privacy or an archway for flowers? 
Will the substance be grown in your yard or bought from a blacksmith? The choice is all yours, the message you want to dispense to the world is up to you as well. For me, I’m done with the picket fences, the idealist picture of perfection. It isn’t what I wanted in the first place, but I DID want the security, the stability that I believed came with it. I have since learned that there is no stability in the picket fence, nor even the marriage that may have brought the home or fence into your life. It’s important that the security be within yourself. That you feel whole, good with yourself, and with God, and the rest will all fall into place.
May you find security within your higher power (God), may you find happiness within yourself, and may your days be filled with time and creativity to design and ability to lay out your own… in your own fibers…
Most importantly, enjoy!
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